Published: Saturday, November 27, 2010
Pat Galbincea, The Plain Dealer
MIDDLEBURG HEIGHTS, Ohio -- Akron natives Carl and Laurie Ralston have a strong calling to prevent the sex trafficking of children.
They've dedicated their lives to doing something about it. It was one of the reasons they recently brought 21-year-old Nhu Thanh, a sex-trafficking victim at age 12 while in Cambodia, to Grace Christian & Missionary Alliance Church in Middleburg Heights to talk about the problem.
The Ralstons were so moved by Nhu's story when they learned of her plight in 2003 that one year later -- before they ever met or saw her -- Carl Ralston sold his lucrative insurance business in Akron to establish Remember Nhu, an IRS-recognized nonprofit organization to help prevent children from entering the sex trade.
"I had heard about Miss Nhu from a missionary in Cambodia," Ralston said. "After he told his story about her, God spoke to my heart. My wife and I wanted to help this young lady."
Six-year search finally finds sex trafficking victim
The Ralstons made six trips to Cambodia over three years before they found her. They walked up and down the Mekong River with Nhu's picture, asking people if they recognized her.
They finally found someone who recognized Nhu in July 2006. The Ralstons found her working in a hair salon in Phnom Penh.
Her story, which she told earlier this month in services at Grace CMA Church, evoked tears from the congregation, according to church Senior Pastor Jonathan Schaeffer.
Carl Ralston first talked about Nhu to church members three years earlier, explaining how he hoped to establish Remember Nhu. One member wrote him a check for $5,000.
Grandmother, deep in debt to feed family, sells girl into sex trade
Nhu, who spoke with The Plain Dealer at the church Tuesday, said her mother abandoned her when she was only 3 days old. She has seen her mother only three times in her life.
She was raised by her grandmother, but by the time she was 12, her grandmother had to borrow money to feed and clothe the family -- with interest at 10 percent per week on the unpaid balance.
Nhu said that since there was no work in Cambodia, her grandmother sold her to a woman who in turn demanded Nhu satisfy the sexual desires of a man who was 30 years older. She spent three days with him in a hotel.
Nhu was sold into sexual slavery two more times before she begged her grandmother to stop for fear she would be sold next to a brothel.
"I went to school to learn cosmetology when I was 13," Nhu said, "and I cleaned at the school because I couldn't afford the tuition. When I completed one year of school, I went to work when I was 14 -- working 12 hours a day with one or two days off a month."
Instead of intervention, giving children a home -- and hope
That's when the Ralstons found Nhu and were able to assist her. Carl Ralston decided to build a home in Cambodia to educate and shelter children like Nhu who were at risk of being sold into sex trafficking.
"My wife and I decided to focus on preventing sex trafficking rather than intervening," he said. "Intervention hasn't worked well. We researched and found it takes $6,000 a year to try and get a child out of the sex trade . . . and found 75 percent of them fall back or relapse into it.
"But the cost of prevention is only $700 a year to care for and train and educate these children, and only 3 percent of them end up in the sex trade."
The Ralstons' first home was built in Phnom Penh in January 2007, housing 18 children. Nhu became the home's first employee, helping train the children and then opening up a hair salon. Most children came via word-of-mouth seeking a haven from sex trafficking.
From this origin, Remember Nhu now has eight homes in five countries -- Cambodia, the Philippines, India, Thailand and Myanmar (formerly Burma) -- with about 200 children. The Ralstons have rescued 300 children.
"We teach the kids English, get them computer literate and send them to public schools," Carl Ralston said. "We want to get them into college, but if they're not college bound, we get them vocational training.
"We keep these kids safe from sex trafficking . . . and that can be up to age 22. We keep them until they are no longer at risk."
Caring for a child costs $60 a month
The Ralstons said they can care for each child -- giving them food, clothing, shelter, education, and medical care -- for $60 a month. The last home they built in Thailand cost $120,000 and houses 60 children and young adults.
Nhu and the Ralstons have received major help from 3,500-member Grace CMA Church. There are 70 individuals sponsoring 70 girls at risk, Schaeffer said, and 41 families are sponsoring the building of another Remember Nhu home next March in Thailand.
Carl Ralston, who is 49, and his 42-year-old wife plan to fight sex trafficking overseas until the problem is eradicated. They, along with Nhu, moved to Thailand in May.
"We're committed to stop this until the day we die," he said. "We figure sex trafficking became a big problem in a 10-year period of time, so maybe we can stop it in a 10-year period."
As for Nhu, her plans are to improve her English so she can speak eloquently on behalf of the organization named after her.
The idea of ending sex trafficking in the same amount of time it took to become the worlds leading industry is a great plan.
ReplyDeleteRecently I wrote a paper on the children involved in sex trafficking in India. My paper integrates the ideas from the documentary "Born Into Brothels" and the thought that love, hope, and providing the children with a source of expression can result in life changing opportunities for the children.
Children have for many reasons become the focus of sex-trafficking. The result is 14,000 children in India alone, who have been exploited for the corrosive, seductive, manipulative pleasure of men all over the world.
"Kids with Cameras" is an organization focused on the taking children in extreme situations and providing them with a home away from the existence the world has put them in, and giving them a source to express themselves. Through this organization they also give the children a chance to speak for other children in similar situations. This is done through art shows of their work, and documentaries of their stories.
Within my paper, I also discuss the world need to make change. That this industry involves the world. Sex tourists are one of the leading causes of the flourishing within this industry. The internet is of course strengthening this industry as well. Another problem is the national governments, who in fear of loosing allies and resources provided through countries that are leading sources of sex-trafficking, have restrained their power to fight against the sex trade industry.
Obviously, ending this industry requires everyone; from the family man in the suburbs, to the traffickers, and to the pimps.
What are your viewpoints on these points?
Also, if you have not heard of "Kids with Cameras" try checking out their website at http://kids-with-cameras.org/home/
Would starting something similar to "Kids with Cameras" in Cambodia be beneficial?